As a parent going through a divorce, you want to provide as much stability and comfort as possible to your child as they go through this difficult time with you. Of course, keeping things stable in their home life is the best way to do this.
If you and your co-parent cannot stand to live in the same space with one another, consider the next best thing: bird nesting.
What is bird nesting?
Bird nesting, as the name suggests, involves treating your home as a “nest” and your child as the baby bird who lives within it. Birds do not force their babies to leave the nest until they are ready. Likewise, children in a nesting housing situation do not have to leave the family home. Instead, it is you and your co-parent who will leave the home, alternating who lives there with your child at any given time.
Why is it beneficial?
As Divorce Mag states, bird nesting has many unique benefits. The first and foremost is that it provides a stable living environment for your child. The last thing they need on top of the stress of a major life change is to also worry about changes to their living arrangements. Keep their housing situation the same and you provide them with one major thing they feel used to and can turn to for a source of comfort.
It also helps co-parents, too. Not everyone can work as cooperative co-parents right off the bat. For many, it takes a period of adjustment and healing before true cooperation can happen. Thus, it is important to take some time apart to heal. In this case, you can still support your child at the same time.